You have the power to create a good or bad divorce. It’s important to understand this as soon as possible so you can make intelligent choices and avoid unnecessary damage. If you have children, you will be connected to your spouse forever, regardless of the divorce. A divorce will end the marital relationship, but it doesn’t end the parenting relationship. You will be together many times over the years, so limiting the damage done during your divorce is not only smart, it will make life easier for your children.